Sharing the Truth

I speak the Truth today about sexual abuse because my voice was stolen from me....no child should ever endure the pain and damage it does. What can you do if you have children? EDUCATE THEM....but first truly educate yourself, the person who is the abuser could be your next door neighbor or a family friend...don't ignore your gut, if someone is a little "too friendly" with your child, be cautious. Teach your child where they end and where someone else begins...it's called Boundaries....if you have been abused, then please read my message of Hope to you.

Have you not been able to reach Your Full Potential because you were abused? Is the pain of the past holding you back? Did you know 1 in 3 girls are sexually abused and 1 in 5 boys are sexually abused (that are reported)? There are all kinds of abuse but the kinds I understand first hand are sexual abuse, incest rape, emotional abuse, mental abuse and relationship abuse that turned into domestic violence. I was held back from reaching my own Full Potential for many years...I understand first hand!

I was sexually abused starting at the tender and innocent young age of 4 (the picture of the little girl is me). It continued to happen year after year by different people until I was old enough to understand it was wrong, children are not emotionally or mentally developed to handle it psychologically.


It was not something I asked for or caused! I say that in case you have been lied to and believe you did! I know first hand the effects of abuse. I consider people who sexually abuse children worse than murders. They murder their victims soul but leave them alive! None of my abusers were prosecuted but I was left with a life sentence of torment, pain, confusion and damage. My voice was stolen. I could not speak due to the fear that was used to intimidate me. The fear used was LIES! Your voice is what can and will stop the abuse, have courage to use it if you are in an abusive situation now!...to read more about my story please visit my website http://www.yourfullpotential.org/abuse.html

Hello and Good Bye Mr. Lameo

I am all about honesty, sometimes I might be too honest, but the Truth is the Truth...so here goes!

I am trying to Reach My Full Potential, that should be no surprise since that is what this blog is about. I can only reach it with Gods help. That is a Truth that I can't forget, although, sometimes I do...it's like this Force, keeps pushing on me to Forget the Truth. So here I sit, typing whatever comes to mind and sharing it! I want to Reach My Full Potential because I want to help others reach it too. However, I think I was believing that I had to Reach my FULL Potential before I could help others....bahhh, that is such a BIG LIE! God is showing me the Truth...what I have to share right now, today is IMPORTANT..even the fact that I am sharing this Truth....that other voice in my head that I have to tell to SHUT UP ALOT, just said...your LAME TRUTH...yeah, OK, whatever....I realized I have voices in my head and I had to make a choice to which voice I was going to listen to. I listen to the "Lame voice" haha....that's it's name now, thank you for giving me your name today, Mr. Lameo Voice because I now recognize it as a voice that is constantly trying to trip me up. You see, God has a plan and a purpose for my life and for yours. He knows everything that will happen to us, he knew us before we were in our Mother's Womb. He knows us intimately! I never got that, I never realized that Truth...so I have to keep telling myself that Truth, so it Sticks. I want Mr. Lameo to go bye, bye.....He no longer has the Power over my life! He did at one time, oh geeze did he.....The lies I believed! Not anymore! The Truth Sets Us Free, but sharing that Truth makes us even more Free : )
I don't proclaim to have Reached My Full Potential....I would be LYING to you if I did and my name is NOT Mr. Lameo.

Have a Fabulous day my friends, we are ALL on a journey, my hope is the Truth I share helps you in some way to Reach Your Full Potential.

Blessings,
Debra

Triggers are Signs from Heaven

I have made some connections through Facebook lately that have stirred some emotions within me and wanted to write about them. The subject matter is abuse, domestic violence to be specific and getting help. While listening to a radio program by Susan Murphy Milano I became very emotional and began crying. She was discussing domestic violence situations where wives and mothers were being murdered, their children taken away from them and how the ex husband controlled and dominated the women. It triggered something deep within me that I must have buried to survive. Our minds bury or block things because too much trauma at once is debilitating. It is a coping mechanism for survival. That is what I did and as I heard the show today it brought up memories that need to be reprocessed and dealt with. I recently asked the person who did this if they would go to counseling with me and surprisingly they said they would. I have believed or perhaps needed to believe that the past has been buried, there is complete forgivenss and moving on was the answer and I was finally O.K. That is obviously not the case because triggers brought up the past as though it happened yesterday, which tells me it needs to be truly dealt with.

The fear that I am allowing to control my thoughts right now is the fact that this person will return to the raging person he used to be once in counseling. He says he is not the man he used to be and his actions appear to prove this is the truth, however I am still not sure. This person went through a serious reocurring illness that had a profound impact on them. It was a terminal illness and by the Grace of God they did not die. I believed and still believe that this illness was a gift from God which got the persons attention and was used to change them. However, as I relive some of the trauma in my mind, I truly wonder if it was not buried just like I buried mine? Did the illness become the focus and the abuse get forgotten? Was it ever really dealt with? These are the questions that I need answers to. I know my calling and my purpose is to help educate and empower people who have endured abuse and once I begin speaking out in reference to this, my prayer is that I am free to do this with no retaliation from the person who committed domestic violence against me.

I am still trying to reach my full potential, remember it is a life long process! Today, I became frozen in my tracks as I remembered what I had truly lived through and what I endured. I think I forgot or wanted to forget because it was too painful to remember. It wasn't time to remember it. However, God has chosen this time in my life to deal with this issue so I can help others more effectively. I heard Joyce Meyer once say, "What is buried Alive Never Dies". Obviously the rotting corpse began to stink today to the point that I was forced to look inside and see what was causing the stench. It is time to dig it up and give it a proper burial. With God guiding me and me relying on his Strength, I know I can edure whatever road is before me. I can and will Reach my Full Potential with God. I believe the triggers that caused me to weep today were signs sent from heaven. The signs are meant to slap me in the face so I would wake up and see clearly that it was time to properly deal with it and Truly be Set Free. Jesus came to set us Free and free indeed is what I will be as I depend on God to help me Reach My Full Potential.

"I have learned the secret of being content in any
and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether
living in plenty or in want.
I can do everything through him who gives me strength (Phil 4:12-13)

Changeless Truth for Changing Times: Christ's Resurrection Power

Changeless Truth for Changing Times: Christ's Resurrection Power